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Tantra & Sexual Education…First Sexual Encounters Affect Body Image

September 3, 2011 by dakini

When a guy loses his virginity, he feels like a stud...not so for girls. A recent study examined 100 college students over a 4-year period who were virgins at the start of college, and how their perspective of their own bodies changed after sex.

 

Sex is tricky!   You are at your most intimate in that moment. Guys report feeling “hotter” because sex is seen as a rite of passage into masculinity.  So, they feel like they’ve finally done it…now they are men!  On the other hand, girls may feel uneasy, guilty and even ‘slutty’. This may even unleash self-esteem and body image issues that have been bubbling below the surface for these insecure, young women.

Other Questions Arise…

Had these adolescents been sexually active at all?

What happens if your first sexual encounter is with a same sex partner?

What were the circumstances of the event?

How does someone respond if they lose their virginity LATER in life?

It might be interesting to study the physiological impact sex has over the course of all four years of college, the “then” and “now” of sex and body perspective.

When it comes to actually getting busy, women  tend to critically evaluate their bodies in terms of the worshipped feminine ideal.  This is called sexual spectatoring, i.e. seeing yourself from the outside rather than focusing on and enjoying the sex you are having in the present moment.

Indeed, society is constantly  bombarded with what media and entertainment deem as “hot or not” and now women are behind the camera comparing and scrutinizing their own bodies. Negative outcomes exist for boys too; they begin to get riskier and riskier the more sex they have. This could lead to multiple sexual partners and potential STDs.

One way to alleviate such negative outcomes is to develop a sex education class that addresses the nitty-gritty of these issues. Close to 20% of the population struggles with body dysmorphic disorder, so dealing with it earlier is a good idea.

As a woman ages, her body image get better, but sadly a man’s get worse. Tantra is something that makes everyone feel good about themselves and their sex lives.  After all,Tantric sex is good for you on all levels…body, mind and spirit.

Tantra Coaching Sessions for Individuals…The practice of Tantra is not strictly for those in a relationship, and the words ‘single’ and ‘happy’ are not mutually exclusive. The ancient Tantrikas spent years in solo preparation to prepare for the meeting with their beloved and the Divine.

There is much that you can learn and open to on your own. Indeed, some things require a time of solitude to blossom and mature, and you can always open to the Divine, which is certainly not a blessing reserved for those  in a relationship.

Individual sessions are useful in a variety of ways: Receiving information, learning practices, becoming more at home in your body, finding support to sort through emotions with regard to a recently ended relationship, or learning how to attract a well matched partner.

Individual sessions are also beneficial to persons who are already in a committed relationship but are unable to bring their partner. They can take many useful exercises and insights home with them to their loved one.

What happens in an individual session depends entirely on what an individual needs to progress toward sexual and emotional fulfilment and Divine love. Although I may offer experiential exercises and meditations during these sessions, my approach in working with individuals is not always hands on.  The unique needs of my client will always dictate the approach required.

For more information on Tantric Sex Education Classes, call Devi at 613 878-8179.

 

 


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